Episode 244: Managing Expectations: Showing Up for Yourself During Hard Times - Patricia Young

Jen and Patricia discuss attachment wounds in their friendship. They explore the importance of self-awareness, setting boundaries, and managing expectations. They highlight the need for compassion & understanding when dealing with attachment issues & emphasize the ongoing work of healing & growth. In this conversation, Patricia shares her recent experiences with conflict & how she navigated this. She discusses the importance of leaning into difficult emotions and listening to others without defensiveness.

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Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC

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Summary

The conversation revolves around attachment injuries and the impact they have on relationships. Patricia explores the concept of self-care and the need to treat oneself with kindness and nurturing. The conversation highlights the different lenses through which people view relationships and the importance of understanding one’s own biases. Overall, the conversation emphasizes the value of curiosity, compassion, and self-empowerment in navigating challenging situations.

In Depth Takeaways

Attachment injuries can impact relationships and trigger emotional reactions.
Self-awareness is crucial in recognizing and understanding attachment wounds.
Setting boundaries and managing expectations can help navigate attachment issues.
Compassion and understanding are essential in healing and growth.
Working on oneself and developing a strong inner relationship is key to managing attachment wounds. Leaning into difficult emotions and situations can lead to personal growth and understanding.
Listening without defensiveness allows for better communication and resolution in conflicts.
Self-care involves treating oneself with kindness and nurturing one’s own needs.
Understanding one’s own biases and lenses can improve relationships and communication.
Curiosity, compassion, and self-empowerment are essential in navigating challenging situations.

Additional Takeaways

Understanding emotional struggles: Gain insights into navigating complex emotions.
Communication strategies: Learn effective ways to express feelings and thoughts.
Attachment wounds exploration: Understand how past experiences impact relationships.
Self-reflection tools: Discover techniques for introspection and personal growth.
Compassion importance: Explore the role of empathy in fostering connections.
Relationship navigation: Tips for managing challenges in interpersonal dynamics.
Trauma healing techniques: Tools for addressing and healing past traumas.
Empathy and connection building: Foster deeper connections with others.
Self-care prioritization: Learn to prioritize self-care and well-being.
Embracing imperfections: Understand the value of self-acceptance and growth.
Emotional intelligence enhancement: Develop skills for understanding and managing emotions.
Healthy boundaries cultivation: Establish boundaries for healthier relationships.
Validation of experiences: Feel validated in your personal journey and struggles.
Self-discovery encouragement: Find inspiration for exploring your true self.
Personal growth support: Receive guidance for personal development and transformation.
Conflict resolution strategies: Learn techniques for resolving conflicts peacefully.
Resilience and strength building: Develop resilience to overcome challenges.
Effective listening techniques: Enhance your listening skills for better communication.
Vulnerability encouragement: Embrace vulnerability as a path to authenticity.
Positive change inspiration: Get motivated to make positive changes in your life.

Sound Bites

“The theme is attachment injuries.”

“We all need a secure attachment.”

“I really have learned to lean into whatever is going on for the moment and knowing that it will last for as long as it lasts.”

“I was really able to listen instead of going into a place of defensiveness.”

“This is the first time that I honestly thought I don’t want to do relationships anymore because the feelings were so intense.”

Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction)

00:00 Introduction and Checking In

01:26 Attachment Injuries and Emotional Challenges

09:03 The Importance of Secure Attachment

11:18 Managing Expectations and Setting Boundaries

16:38 Learning to Show Up for Ourselves

18:30 Leaning into Difficult Emotions and Situations

19:40 Listening without Defensiveness in Conflict

24:35 The Importance of Self-Care and Nurturing

26:28 Understanding Biases and Lenses in Relationships

29:17 Curiosity, Compassion, and Self-Empowerment in Challenging Situations

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Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you

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Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.

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