Episode 240: Navigating grief, uncertainty and travel through the lens of attachment - Patricia Young

Patricia and Jen discuss navigating uncertainty and overwhelm, managing change and unexpected situations, balancing personal needs, the power of communication and validation, finding meaning and value in relationships, coping with anxiety and catastrophic thinking, choosing to assume the best, managing energy and boundaries, secure attachment and autonomy, dealing with uncertainty and seeking information, taking care of yourself in travel. They also reflect on their friendship

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Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC

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Summary

Patricia and Jen discuss various topics including body image, grief, historical trauma, emotional support, communication, and family dynamics. Patricia shares her personal experiences and emotions surrounding her son leaving for boot camp, which triggers both current and historical grief. They explore the importance of emotional attunement and the impact of different processing styles on relationships. The conversation highlights the need for compassion, understanding, and open communication in navigating intense emotions and supporting one another.

Takeaways

Body image concerns can impact self-perception and emotional well-being.
Grief can be triggered by current events and activate historical trauma.
Emotional support and attunement are crucial in navigating intense emotions.
Open communication and understanding of different processing styles can strengthen relationships. Navigating uncertainty and overwhelm can be challenging, but finding ways to manage change and unexpected situations can help.
Balancing personal needs and family expectations is important for maintaining well-being.
Effective communication and validation can strengthen relationships and provide support during difficult times.
Coping with anxiety and catastrophic thinking requires self-awareness and the ability to assume the best in uncertain situations.
Taking care of oneself and setting boundaries is crucial for managing energy and maintaining emotional well-being.
Seeking information and being proactive can help reduce uncertainty and increase feelings of security.
Finding security in relationships and in life involves developing secure attachment and embracing autonomy.
Taking care of oneself during travel, such as having snacks and staying hydrated, can help manage stress and anxiety.
Finding security in relationships and in life involves developing secure attachment and embracing autonomy.
Reflecting on friendship and growth can bring appreciation and gratitude for the journey.

Additional topics discussed:

Exploring the complexities of loss, grief, and change in personal experiences.
Normalizing and validating diverse ways of coping with sadness and challenges.
Reflecting on the interplay between present circumstances and past narratives.
Nurturing compassion and gentleness in relationships to facilitate healing.
Recognizing the value of secure attachments in both personal and life contexts.
Strategies for dealing with uncertainty and finding resources for support.
Cultivating wisdom in distinguishing between controllable and uncontrollable aspects of life.
The power of communication in addressing needs within relationships.
Overcoming codependency and setting healthy boundaries in interactions.
Embracing vulnerability and authenticity in sharing personal experiences.
Balancing self-expression with consideration for others in relationships.
Addressing feelings of inadequacy and the need for self-affirmation.
Seeking empowerment through information and planning in uncertain situations.
Building resilience through shared experiences and mutual support.
Fostering a sense of autonomy and self-assurance amidst societal pressures.

Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction)

00:00 Introduction and Checking In

00:28 Body Image and Self-Perception

07:09 Intense Grief and Emotional Support

08:02 Communication and Emotional Boundaries

12:09 Processing Grief and Emotional Reactions

14:58 Capacity for Emotional Support

20:06 Last Moments and Emotional Vulnerability

21:05 Navigating Uncertainty and Overwhelm

22:01 Managing Change and Unexpected Situations

23:24 Balancing Personal Needs and Family Expectations

25:17 The Power of Communication and Validation

26:15 Finding Meaning and Value in Relationships

27:09 Coping with Anxiety and Catastrophic Thinking

28:03 Choosing to Assume the Best

29:00 Managing Energy and Boundaries

29:26 Secure Attachment and Autonomy

30:18 Dealing with Uncertainty and Seeking Information

32:35 Taking Care of Yourself in Travel

38:33 Finding Security in Relationships and Life

40:18 Reflecting on Friendship and Growth

PODCAST HOST

Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you

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Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.

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