Episode 239: Being "Too Much" is a Narrative that needs to be Re-examined - Patricia Young

Summary

Patricia discusses the wound of too much and how it can impact relationships. Too much is about BOTH people and the capacity of the other person. This is a narrative that needs to be reexamined, and the context of both people needs to be addressed. Patricia explores the intersection of neurodivergence, trauma, and socialization. Patricia also explores the concept of rules, and how through an autistic lens, this can create some challenges.

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Takeaways

The wound of feeling like you’re too much can stem from trauma and socialization of neurotypical norms.

Understanding and respecting one’s own capacity and the capacity of others is crucial in communication.

Navigating relationships as a neurodivergent individual requires open and honest conversations.

Embracing sensitivity and accepting oneself is essential for personal well-being.

Chapters (please adjust for the addition of the introduction)

Points made in this episode:

Exploring the concept of the “wound of too much” in relationships and self-perception.
Addressing the impact of past traumas and relationship experiences on feeling “too much.”
Discussing the importance of understanding and respecting personal and others’ capacities.
Emphasizing the need for setting healthy boundaries to overcome the “wound of too much.”
Highlighting the dynamics of communication and capacity in relationships.
Encouraging empathy and consideration for others’ limits in interactions.
Recognizing the interconnectedness of personal wounds of “too much” and “not enough.”
Offering strategies for balancing enthusiasm and respecting others’ capacities.
Challenging the narrative that focuses solely on one person being “too much.”
Advocating for a shift towards understanding and honoring both individuals’ capacities.
Discussing the challenges faced in relationships between neurodivergent and neurotypical individuals.
Providing insights on communication, boundaries, and self-awareness in relationships.
Emphasizing the importance of mutual understanding and communication in addressing capacity issues.
Exploring the nuances of being perceived as “too much” and the impact on self-esteem.
Encouraging self-acceptance, setting boundaries, and fostering healthy connections.

00:00 Introduction and Setting the Topic

01:36 The Wound of Too Much

06:21 PDA Profile and Autonomy

07:52 Socialization and Autistic Females

10:16 Stimming and Accommodations

11:34 Navigating Communication and Social Cues

13:17 The Fear of Being Too Much

14:07 The Influence of Others’ Opinions

18:22 Shifting the Narrative: Capacity of Both Parties

20:11 Navigating Relationships with Limited Insight

21:10 Personal Examples and Communication

23:35 Finding Balance in Showing Interest

24:05 Conclusion and Encouragement

PODCAST HOST

Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you

Episode 239: Being “Too Much” is a Narrative that needs to be Re-examined

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