Poll results—If You Could NOT Be a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), Would You? Questions to Ask Yourself
If you could NOT be an HSP, would you? I share the results of a poll that 93 HSPs responded to including the pros and cons given. Two major things happened on Christmas Eve before 9 a.m. at my home. Ways to evaluate how your holidays went, and how to create what you might want for the following year. Questions to ask yourself to help you set goals for the New Year, and my wishes for you for the next year.
If you could NOT be an HSP, would you
Yes—20% (less than ½ were men)—related to autoimmune disorders, pain
Those that WOULD change and no longer be an HSP
Happier, more confident in my own skin. I’m lonely and unsuccessful
Barely surviving life
Can’t go on like this
Sick of this
Not fitting in
Those that WOULDN’T change, and remain being an HSP
Work on themselves and as they learned about themselves they accepted who they are
More in tune with others’ needs
Have a greater appreciation for beauty, nature, poetry, music, art
Even though have lower lows, they have greater depth of happiness
The more I learn about myself, the happier I am
Being an HSP isn’t the issue; it’s an issue with our society
I’m more confident in who I am. I don’t let societal norms affect me
I don’t want to numb my compassion
I like the quirkiness that makes me
I might want my sensory sensitivity removed, but keep the emotional depth
It helps me be creative, artistic and introspective
HSPs are shamans and healers (therapists, massage therapist, teachers)
Would be boring—I wouldn’t have insight and I wouldn’t care
I’m strong and resilient
31 Questions to ask yourself before setting next year’s goals
1. What are the first thoughts that come to mind about the past year? Mostly positive, negative, or neutral?
2. What was one of the most interesting things I learned this year?
3. Who was one person I met that I’d like to get to know better? Why?
4. What was one of my most challenging moments? Why?
5. What was one of my favorite accomplishments?
6. What was one personal strength I used this year? How did it benefit my work or life?
7. What hurdle came up more than once? (time, money, attitude, location, knowledge, etc.)
8. How well did I communicate with the people who matter most to me?
9. What three events or accomplishments were made possible by the help of others?
10. What advice would I offer someone else on the basis of a lesson I learned this year?
11. What are three problems that came up at work? How did I approach solving those problems? Are there any trends in those problems or solutions?
12. Who needed my encouragement this year? What did I say or do to help them along?
13. If I were writing a memoir, what would I highlight in the chapter about this year?
14. What was I doing when I forgot about time and was able to be “in the moment”?
15. What frustration seemed to come up again and again?
16. What did I start and not finish?
17. What did I try and fail?
18. What three things am I curious to know more about?
19. If I could wave a magic wand and master one skill, what would it be? Why?
20. Who is one person I could help right now? How? What would it “cost” me? What would I gain?
21. When did I slow someone else’s progress? Why? What was I worried about?
22. What’s one thing I made or created from scratch? How did that feel?
23. What’s one thing I did that left me exhausted at the end? How did that feel?
24. What’s one thing I was a part of this year that I’ll remember for the rest of my life? Why?
25. What was the nicest thing someone did for me this year?
26. What was the nicest thing I did for someone else this year?
27. If I could change one thing that happened this year, what would it be?
28. What felt difficult one year ago that now feels easy (or easier)?
29. Of the books I read this year, which was my favorite?
30. How did I capture my thoughts and feelings? (journaling, writing, social media sharing, talking one-on-one with friends or family, etc.) Was that method helpful?
31. What are six adjectives that best describe this year? What would I like those adjectives to be next year?
My wishes for you for 2020—
• If you’re not familiar, Become more familiar with the trait
• Practice radical self-compassion
• Play, connection, a creative outlet, a way that you express yourself
• a few deep, meaningful relationships where you feel seen, heard and honored
• a lifestyle that really honors your HS needs
• abundance—time, laughter, money, acceptance, relationships
• joyful movement of your body
• curiosity and the love of learning
• love for yourself and others
Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, who is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
31 Questions to ask yourself before setting next year’s goals–https://www.inc.com/robin-camarote/31-questions-to-ask-yourself-before-setting-next-years-goals.html
Online HSP Course–https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
To enter for a free drawing for the Online HSP Course—
HSP Online Course
1. Send an e-mail to firstname.lastname@example.org
2. You MUST indicate which of the 4 groups you want to join (you can find the groups at https://unapologeticallysensitive.com/hsp-online-groups/
a. I will send a short screening form, and the HSP group intake
b. Sunday January 12 I will draw a name and send the winner an e-mail
Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive
Music– Gravel Dance by Andy Robinson www.andyrobinson.com