Episode 253: The Importance of Self-Regulation, Self-Compassion and Connection solo - Patricia Young

The Importance of Self-Regulation, Self-Compassion and Connection

Patricia discusses her feelings of annoyance and disappointment when her scheduled recording with Jen is cancelled. The conversation highlights the complexities of managing emotions and maintaining healthy boundaries in relationships. She also discusses her experience of transitioning from an expansive state to a contractive state and the challenges that come with it. She talks about managing dysregulation, the impact of trauma work and OCD, and the importance of self-compassion.

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Patricia explores her attachment style, OCD, and preoccupation with Jen, as well as her efforts to regulate her nervous system. Patricia also reflects on the challenges that arise from the different ways she and Jen navigate time and commitments. She emphasizes the importance of self-regulation and the need for connection in her relationship with Jen. Overall,

Takeaways

Different individuals have different attachment styles and ways of navigating time and commitments.
Self-regulation is important for managing emotions and maintaining healthy boundaries in relationships.
Open communication and understanding can help navigate challenges in relationships.
Recognizing and challenging OCD lies can prevent spiraling into negative thought patterns.
Transitioning between expansive and contractive states is a normal part of being human.
Managing dysregulation and finding ways to self-soothe are important during contractive states.
Trauma work and OCD can add additional challenges to the process.
Self-compassion and acceptance of all emotions and experiences are crucial.
Validation and support from others can help navigate difficult times.
Fears and anxieties as a parent are valid and should be acknowledged and addressed.

Sound Bites

“I’m annoyed and I’m disappointed.”

“I have a need to be, feel like we’ve got autonomy over things.”

“Timeliness, making commitments about things often are more challenging for her.”

“I noticed probably about a week ago, I went into what I call an expansive state.”

“I know that I do not maintain this expansive state and that at some point I will drop back into a contractive state.”

“It felt nice to go into this very expansive space and I could feel myself kind of dropping down out of it.”

Chapters

Navigating Attachment Styles and Time Management

Uncertainty and Preoccupation in Relationships

Challenging OCD Lies and Managing Emotions

Communication and Understanding in Relationships

Navigating the Expansive and Contractive States

Managing Dysregulation and Self-Soothing

Challenges of Trauma Work and OCD

The Power of Self-Compassion

Validating Fears and Anxieties

Finding Support and Acceptance

PODCAST HOST

Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for over 17 years, but she is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile and RSD, helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for neurodivergent folks that focus on understanding what it means to be a sensitive neurodivergent. Topics covered include: self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you

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