You Take Things So Personally! How to Respond
As a Highly Sensitive Person, aka HSP, it’s not uncommon for us to be told that we take things so personally. What does this mean to the person who says it? What if other people told us that they don’t process deeply, and they don’t feel deeply? The goal (to me) is to become an empowered HSP, so when we hear this, we can get curious about where the other person is coming from. If hearing this feels hurtful, we may have our own work and healing to do. We can embrace all of our feelings, and love our traits.
- Other people rarely own how they are impacted by our behavior
- It often has little to nothing to do with us, but we take it on
- We can get really curious about what this means to the other person
- When we have wounding, we tend to feel like this statement is about something that’s wrong with us
- When we do our work and healing, when someone says this to us, it doesn’t have to sting
- Do we need to give ourselves reassurances?
- What do we need to hear from ourselves so we feel comfort?
- We want to work things through so we understand. It’s important to use descriptive words instead of words like “ruminating”
- If someone doesn’t have the capacity to explore what they’re saying, then maybe we need to just say “OK”
- We don’t always have to explain why we are the way we are
- When we do our work, comments like this won’t have that stinging charge
- We may continue to have a response when someone says something like to us, but the amount that it stings or how long it bothers us can lessen over time
- It’s easy to go into judgement for ourselves and others
- This is why having self-compassion is important
- Being an empowered HSP means that we know our strengths and we embrace our traits
- We can have a party about our sensitivity; it’s something to celebrate
- When we can tease out the wounding around our traits, we can own our traits and feel great about them
- Messages we have received in the past about our traits can create wounding
Patricia Young hosts the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive, and works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them to understand their HSP traits, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate the amazing gifts they have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPs providing coaching. Patricia also facilitates online groups for HSPs that focus on building community and developing skills (identifying your superpowers, boundaries, perfectionism, dealing with conflict, mindfulness, embracing emotions, creating a lifestyle that supports the HSP, communication and more).
Facebook group Unapologetically Sensitive– https://www.facebook.com/groups/2099705880047619/
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