Tools & Tips To Help Manage Large Crowds and Venues
I share 2 recent experiences where I had an opportunity to learn how to navigate situations that previously were very difficult, but this time were easier. I talk about going to Earth Day with my husband and how I used mindfulness to see what works and what is challenging. I also talk about a situation where I previously would get overwhelmed with information, and how I handled it differently. Due to previous experiences of being overwhelmed and overstimulated, we often don’t know how to use tools to figure out how to “re-enter” these challenging situations.
- My husband and I went to the Earth Day fair together
- How to navigate activities that are important to one partner, but not the other
- Using mindfulness to really notice what parts of a situation work and don’t work
- If I’m in a crowd, it helps if I hold my husband’s hand, or loop my finger through his belt loop. He can navigate the crowds, and I just follow and I’m free to look around
- Often Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs) don’t do well in crowds, and it can be difficult to have to “push through” other people.
- If you go to an event with someone who has different needs, sometimes compromising so both people get their needs met (in this case, my husband chose to not spend as much time looking at the individual booths, and he was ok with this)
- See if you can agree on a specific amount of time to attend the activity. You can take separate vehicles, or you can touch base after a certain amount of time to reevaluate
If you get overwhelmed, overstimulated or tired, sometimes having a comfortable place to sit and watch people (shady, not too noisy) can be a way to recharge.
- When we don’t know we are highly sensitive, we go into these situations and feel overwhelmed without knowing exactly why
- Many HSPs have been so overwhelmed and overstimulated in the past, but didn’t know why or didn’t know they were HSPs, then we don’t want to engage again. We can use mindfulness to figure out what things work, and what things need to be adapted. We are often capable of doing more than we think we can (without violating our boundaries or doing too much)
- When we can talk about our needs and our partner/friend/parent/child’s needs, we can work together
- We can also set boundaries around how much information we want to receive, and we can be clear on how we will handle it if our boundaries aren’t honored.
- We often are more capable than we think we are, which can be incredibly empowering.
- Being an HSP is really a strength, and when we’re willing to use mindfulness and curiosity and to make necessary adjustments, we may be able to do more than we thought we could
Patricia Young is a Life Coach in California. Patricia works with Highly Sensitive People (HSPs) helping them understand their HSPness, and turning their perceived shortcomings into superpowers. Patricia is passionate about providing education to help HSPs and non-HSPs understand and truly appreciate all the gifts we have to offer. Patricia works globally online with HSPS providing coaching. We meet over a private platform (similar to Skype), and you can have coaching from the privacy of your own home—when the kids are at school or are napping; from work; in your pajamas, or when you just can’t face sitting in traffic or going out. Patricia also facilitates online specialty groups for HSPs.
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