Episode 223: Neurodivergent Insights: Navigating ADHD, Autism, PDA, and Communication - Patricia Young

Neurodivergent Insights: Navigating ADHD, Autism, PDA, and Communication

Jen and I discuss the challenges of living with ADHD, Autism and PDA, including communication difficulties and perception of reality. We talk about how these show up for us differently, and how we navigate some of the challenges. I also share about disclosing to my MD about being autistic, and how that was received. We also talk about the difficulty of the holidays for some, and some end of year reflections that may (or may not be) helpful.

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Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC

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Summary

This conversation explores the challenges and dynamics of relationships when one or both individuals have Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA), also known as Pervasive/Persisten Drive for Autonomy, a profile of autism. The speakers discuss how PDA shows up in their lives and the importance of understanding and managing individual differences. They emphasize the need for generosity, repair, and open communication in relationships. The conversation also touches on the impact of sensory issues, the role of medication in managing ADHD and autism symptoms, and the significance of end-of-year reflections and holiday traditions. Overall, the speakers highlight the importance of embracing and honoring different experiences and finding gentleness in navigating relationships and the holiday season. In this conversation, Patricia and Jen discuss the importance of effective communication and provide practical tips for improving communication skills. They cover topics such as active listening, empathy, non-verbal communication, building trust and rapport, and conflict resolution. The conversation emphasizes the significance of clear and open communication in personal and professional relationships.

Takeaways

Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA), also called Pervasive/Persistent Drive for Autonomy, can present challenges in relationships, particularly in terms of communication and managing expectations.
Generosity, repair, and open communication are essential in maintaining healthy relationships when one or both individuals have a PDA profile.
Understanding and embracing individual differences, such as sensory issues and different perspectives, can foster empathy and connection in relationships.
Managing ADHD and autism symptoms may involve medication, but it is important to consider individual needs and preferences.
Effective communication is crucial for building and maintaining relationships.
Active listening and empathy are key components of effective communication.
Non-verbal communication, such as body language and tone of voice, can greatly impact the message being conveyed.
Building trust and rapport is essential for effective communication.
Conflict resolution skills are important for resolving disagreements and maintaining healthy relationships.
Finally, end-of-year reflections and holiday traditions can be meaningful to assess growth and change during the year. Some ideas for these reflections are given, but it is essential to prioritize self-care and find what works best for each individual.

Topics covered in order:

Introduction and PDA in Relationships
Managing PDA in Relationships
Understanding Different Perspectives
Generosity and Repair in Relationships
Sensory Issues and Individual Differences
Communication and Understanding in Relationships
Shared Realities and Overlapping Perspectives
Embracing Quirks and Repairing Relationships
ADHD Medication and Neurodivergent Perspectives
Managing ADHD and Autism Symptoms
Reflections on the End of the Year
Finding What Works for You
Disclosing Autism to Healthcare Practitioners
Navigating Holiday Cards and Expectations
Taking Time for End-of-Year Reflection
Honoring Different Experiences during the Holidays
Unpacking Expectations and Finding Gentleness
The Importance of Effective Communication
Active Listening and Empathy
Non-Verbal Communication
Building Trust and Rapport
Conflict Resolution
Conclusion

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Patricia was a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, but is now exclusively providing coaching. She knows what it’s like to feel like an outcast, misfit, and truthteller. Learning about the trait of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), then learning she is AuDHD with a PDA profile helped Patricia rewrite her history with a deeper understanding, appreciation, and a sense of self-compassion. She created the podcast Unapologetically Sensitive to help other neurodivergent folks know that they aren’t alone, and that having a brain that is wired differently comes with amazing gifts, and some challenges. Patricia works online globally working individually with people, and she teaches Online Courses for HSPs that focus on understanding what it means to be an HSP, self-care, self-compassion, boundaries, perfectionism, mindfulness, communication, and creating a lifestyle that honors you

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Jen Perry, MSEd, MA, LPC has been a psychotherapist for 20 years. She specializes in helping Highly Sensitive People thrive in love, work, and parenting Highly Sensitive Children. Jen is passionate about using mindfulness and compassion-based approaches to ameliorate human suffering.

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